I could've put the crib in the backyard

I just happened to be cruising around some baby-related websites and came across an article on letting newborn babies "cry it out" in the middle of the night. Written by a PhD from Children's Hospital in Philadelphia, it talks about how "sleep training," her term for allowing infants to cry for half an hour at two in the morning, teaches them (in just a couple of nights) the self-soothing skills they need to fall asleep on their own.

Isn't that special?

Immediately I had this flashback to early spring, 2005, when I was propped up in my bed at three in the morning flipping through my paperback copy of Babywise, trying to decipher the print through my hormone and fatigue-induced fit of tears. It's a strict, schedule-based sleep-training book complete with graphs. Full of facts: sleep statistics, success percentages, the requisite troubleshooting section. I followed its advice, TO A TEE. Problem was, my kid wasn't in any of its two-hundred-twenty-something, whip-cracking pages.

Then there was the first time I showed up at the hospital-sponsored Mommy and Me class when Bugglegirl was six months old and still not sleeping through the night. When I lamented to the instructor that "crying it out" just didn't work with my baby, she coolly responded, "Oh, it works if you do it right." I almost invited that bee-atch back to my place for a two-hour, middle-of-the-night screamfest, but instead I just never went back. I also never let Bugglegirl cry for hours in the middle of the night again. I didn't need some wannabe Dr. Spock to tell me how to handle my kid. Intuitively, I knew that my little bundle of joy was destined to be the exception to every rule.

[Sorry - I just glanced up through the French patio doors to glimpse Buggleboy streaking through the backyard. Bugglegirl in her panties, carrying a purse and chasing him. Excuse me for just a moment.]

My point is: experts, schmexperts. It took Bugglegirl ten months to sleep though the night completely (my pediatrician's assessment: some babies just get hungry). And Buggleboy woke throughout the night until he had tubes put in his ears at fourteen months.

It was a frustrating, exhausting process, but now both of them sleep regularly from seven to seven. Sleep training, indeed.